A Moment on the Lips, A Lifetime On The Hips

Over three years ago, I began my weight-loss journey.  I call it a journey because it is a long road traveled and it is never really over, even when you reach your weight destination. Because if you ever get there, then you have to learn what to do to keep it off and that is a journey in itself.  Starting today and keep going day by day and inch along, even if it is at a snail pace.  You will eventually get there….


So, let’s say you begin with a diet or following the Skinny-Rules to lose weight (https://skinny-rules.com/2014/03/18/my-weight-loss-rules-that-made-me-skinny-and-kept-me-skinny-and-i-eat/). You follow the rules and change your eating style.  You add in some exercise to make it happen even faster and to get fit and healthy (because skinny flabby is not attractive or healthy either).  Then, you are looking different and people start to notice.

Good people who notice changes in you say nice things and compliment you on your efforts and results.  Not-good-people will find ways to discourage what you are doing and what you have done.  You will hear comments that range…..Here are a few……and most of these are said by overweight people who have tried diets and give up too easily and have no willpower over their carb addiction.

  • “You have gone too far.”
  • “You don’t look good.”
  • “Oh, you will gain it back.  Everyone does! ”  (not if you stick to the rules and don’t go back to your old bad habits)
  • “You are anorexic.”
  • “It is unhealthy” (like fat or diabetes is healthy!)
  • “You are too old to be so skinny!”
  • “You have an unhealthy relationship to food.”
  • “You can’t keep eating like that!”
  • “You can’t stay on a diet forever!”  (it isn’t a diet, it is a lifestyle change because the way you eat before was wrong learning or you wouldn’t have gotten larger!)

So, I have heard all of these, but my BMI is 22.  (normal is between 18.5 and 24.5 and I am 22. I would prefer 21, but my body seems to like 22.  I exercise regularly (Pilates 4 days a week, yoga one day a week and elliptical about 5 hours a week).  My Lindora consultant told me that because I work out so much, my muscle is more dense.  She took my measurements the other day and they were the same as when my BMI was 19.  I have been BMI of 22 for a year now and still look good, so I guess this is where I need to be.

I eat between 50 and 100g of carbs per day and I follow the rules.  My deserts consist of things that are low-carb like my One Minute cake recipe from Jorge Cruz.  (I will put it up on my next blog again, but I have it on Skinny-Rules from earlier on.  https://skinny-rules.com/2013/09/04/time-to-eat-some-chocolate-cake-and-not-gain-weight/  I enjoy my eating style and I look hot doing it (so I am told!  :))

So, anyone can say anything or try to guilt me into eating or drinking their calorific food or drink item to make them feel better about doing it, but I worked too hard and care too much about myself to let someone SABOTAGE me.

You have to love yourself and learn to say, “NO!”  That is a hard word to say if you are not used to it and many women are trained to be obliging to people.  If you care about yourself at all and have any self-esteem, you have to learn to say no to saboteurs and to bad food.

A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips!




And you know what?  If friends are not supportive because you are doing what they can’t do and they are jealous–then they are not your real friends and you need some new ones!


Holiday Food and Sabotage

Here is my blog for Holiday Food with Your Family Friends and Low-Carb Substitutions that can be made.


However, today’s blog is about holiday parties–family, friends or work.  This time of year, I hear a lot about people being surrounded by parties with bad food choices, bad drink choices, alcohol and desserts galore.  I went to my chiropractor and there were many chocolate items there.


5 Things You Can Do To Not Gain Weight at Holiday Parties!

1.  Take a piece of food or dessert, if you must, take a bite and then toss it in the trash when no one is looking.  A bite won’t kill your diet, but if you can’t say no to the rest, then this strategy is not for you.

2.  Just say “NO!” Seriously, how much do you love yourself and your commitment to your diet?  Most of the sugar and GMO products are not good for your health anyway.  Do you care at all about how it will affect you?  Stop poisoning yourself with white sugar.

3.  EAT before you get there.  You are more likely to nibble on healthy things because you are not ravenous.  You can nibble on fruit and vegetables, and have water or if you must, one hard liquor cocktail.  The more you have wine, beer or champagne–and especially fruit cocktails, the more carbohydrates you are consuming unnecessarily.  I have had someone tell me that they go to these things and are hungry and then, the bad food looks extra good to them  and it is harder to say, “No!”  Why tempt yourself?  Why drive yourself crazy?  Eat an egg, cheese, nuts, a piece of fruit, yogurt–something low carb and healthy before you get there.  If you know for sure that there are good low-carb food items, then you need not worry.

4.  If you know the host, you could make a request for something like a vegetable platter or low-fat meat and low-fat cheese platter.

5.  Don’t succumb to peer pressure to eat badly.  Most people NOT on a diet, who know that they SHOULD be on one, can’t wait to watch someone doing well on a diet–fall off of their diet.  It makes them feel better about themselves being heavier or enjoying thinking they are the best looking person in the room.  So, don’t give them this satisfaction.


I get pleasure in telling people, “NO! Stop pressuring me!”  Worse case scenario, just blame your doctor and say you are under a doctor’s care and these are his orders.  If they are NOSEY and ask you for what–“tell them that you don’t like talking about it.”  And if they ask again, repeat what I just wrote.  If they ask the third time, then you have a right to say, “I would appreciate it if you stop trying to delve into my medical history. I like to keep it private.”  I hate nosey people.

And the same thing goes for the alcohol.  Alcohol has to be very limited to NOTHING during the weight loss process.  If your body is busy using its energy to metabolize the alcohol in your liver, then there is no energy left during that period to break down fat.  

I want to stay thin, I rarely drink.  I gain easily.  It is not worth it to me.  I prefer being thin.  Much more fun than eating something that goes inside in less than a minute.  Thin lasts longer.

Holiday Food Time and Delicious Low-Carb Substitutions

So many people I know tell me that they are going to eat what they want for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and pretty much for the entire month of December because (their excuse to go food nuts) IT IS THE HOLIDAYS!  When did the holidays become about pigging out and not celebrating the Pilgrims and Native Americans, the birth of Baby Jesus, the oil staying lit and the fact that there are Christmas lights up all month and we have to listen to Holiday music for over a month?  Why are we doing this?  I still think it is because people associate it with “comfort” of family and “comfort” food.  It reminds them of home, but it is also a great excuse to be bad without having to say you are eating fattening food because you just feel like it.

So, a lot of people put on weight starting with Halloween and starting January 1–they join health clubs and weight loss centers.  It reminds me of bears that eat up before the hibernation, except that we are not bears.  Why do this to yourself every year?  It makes no sense.  It is hard on the body and the wallet.

So, the holidays are here.  Here are some tips to not overeat fattening foods and still have holiday feasts.  You can even use substitutes to create many traditional meals.  You can even start NEW TRADITIONS with new meals.  I have turkey, vegetables, salad and I make them as interesting as possible.

Many people seem to think that “Thanksgiving is all about the carbs.” But it really doesn’t have to be that way. You can decide to have a Thanksgiving or Christmas meal with any carb level you want. I have found some really good tips online.  These Thanksgiving tips work well for any large holiday meal.


1) Choose traditionals that are lower in carbs.

Turkey is obviously the low-carb star of the meal. There might be vegetables, which are family favorites,  that don’t have a lot of starch or added sugars. Think back through holidays past and resurrect the least carby side dishes.  Stay away from yams with cream, mashed potatoes, etc.

2) Consider scaling back some of the traditional side dishes.

Did you know that plain roasted yams with salt, pepper and butter are really delicious even without a pile of marshmallows on top? Instead of a rich vegetable casserole, how about a simpler vegetable side dish, such as green beans with almonds? Have a simple sautéed mushroom and peppers dish, get some good low-fat cheeses and cut cucumbers, or a salad with a  cranberry vinaigrette dressing.

3) Serve low-carb, high-flavor nibbles first.

If you decide to eat more carbohydrates than usual, consider holding off until you get to the table. Use vegetables with dip, cucumber rounds instead of crackers for spreads, and peanuts or other nuts, instead of chips.

4.  For meals and desserts that are low-carb, go to this site for recipes for low carb meals, ideas and desserts–including low-carb pumpkin pie and other pies.  There are low-carb alternatives to everything so you don’t have to be that bad!





Weight Loss Can Affect a Relationship

When I finally joined a medically supervised weight loss plan and learned how to eat better and how to lose weight, it was great that my spouse was right on board and he wanted to do it or help me through it.  He went along with the change of eating, food and even places to go to eat. We also started to work out more.

He was supportive.  This is key.  

A study was done on weight loss and the correlation with relationships, and it was found that a partner’s weight loss did not always generate a positive response in relationships.  Some were positive responses, but they also found that:

  • The partner who lost weight was found to insist his or her significant other to follow a new healthy lifestyle, causing a rift in the relationship. Non-weight-loss partners who were not supportive of their other half shedding the pounds felt threatened and insecure. As a result, they made critical comments, were less interested in sex, or tried to sabotage their partner with unhealthy food to derail their efforts as a means to prevent the partner and relationship from changing.

This study found that one partner’s lifestyle change influenced the dynamic of couples’ interaction in a variety of positive or negative ways, tipping the scale of romantic relationships, up or down. http://www.medicaldaily.com/losing-weight-may-be-bad-relationships-partners-have-less-sex-sabotage-diets-and-feel-insecure

Here is the issue.  Some people are insecure and if their partner is able to follow the rules and lose weight and the other one either needs to lose too, but doesn’t have the willpower or they are worried that the weight-loss spouse now looks so good that they will no longer want to be with their partner–then those are the reasons that partners will sabotage your diet.

You have to love yourself and your health.  If you are in a relationship with someone non-supportive, there are a few things you can try to do.

1.  You can still do things with them and go the same places with them, but you must be able to say no to tempting foods, no matter what.

2.  You can explain to your partner that you understand that they have fears, but you feel better and you still love them no matter what.

3.  You can start to cook things in the house that taste good and are low-carb and support your partner in some weight loss for themselves.

4.  You can start getting out to walk with them and tell them that it is your quality talking time together that means a lot to you.

5.  You can explain to your partner that you love them and you want them to stay healthy and live longer.

6.  You can invite your partner with you to the doctor or center to see what you are doing and let them see that it isn’t so bad and how key their support is for you to be successful.

However, if nothing works, then you might be in an unhealthy relationship.  I would suggest counseling, and at the minimum, for you to get through what you need to do to stay focused on your new lifestyle.

lifestyleYou might also realize that perhaps your relationship has been unhealthy and has led you to put the weight on in the first place.  This could be a revelation for you.  Something to keep in mind.  But, remember, this is your body and no matter who tries to interfere with your diet or exercise plan, you are the one who has to feel fat or have trouble buying or wearing clothes.  You are the one to have to deal with medical complications.  You have to take care of yourself because no one else will.  Show some self-love!

Not my favorite guy, but his phrase is spot on:



Diet Jealousy


You’ve given up most of those high-calorie foods you used to love. Exercised every day–even when you didn’t feel like it.  And finally, it’s all paying off–you’re edging toward your weight loss goal — and looking pretty great!

At the same time, you’ve encountered what seems like a surprising lack of enthusiasm or irritating remarks from some of your family and friends — maybe even your partner — about your new look.

As unusual as this may seem, experts say it’s actually quite common to receive some unexpected reactions when you dramatically change your appearance.

“Human beings are hard-wired to resist change, so it’s not uncommon to encounter some resistance whenever change occurs,

When we accomplish a goal — particularly something as difficult as losing weight– it may serve to remind friends and family of their own failed attempts.  That, too, can spark a bad reaction.


I work harded hard at my weight loss and maintenance is a daily routine.  If I lose sight of it, I would gain it back.  So, I have found ways to eat that I enjoy and I embrace my new way of life.  The old way didn’t make me happy.  I left restaurants feeling bloated and stuffed.  I felt bad trying on clothes and I didn’t like how I looked in my clothes.  I spent times not wanting to go out to social occasions because I didn’t want to be the fat lady at the party.
I worked hard to lose the weight.  I learned the rules, learned how to look at carbs and learned what foods had proteins, fiber and carbs.  I work them daily into my diet.  This took time and effort.  It was not an overnight success.  It wasn’t like after a week of hard work, that I suddenly lost the weight.  I also had to kick my exercise up a notch to burn off calories.  I work out more now than I ever have and I do it because it makes me feel strong and it helps me stay skinny.
Sometimes, I will run into someone who remembers me being fat.  They knew I was on a diet and saw me losing and they even asked me how I did it.  I freely shared the information, but some thought that there was no way they could do it and they gave up before they even tried to do it.  This is an issue in that some people grow resentfu that you could do it and they didn’t have it in them to try.
So, then, in some ways, my weight loss becomes a symbol of their inability to accomplish their goals, so they may begin to act resentful — or even act mean to me — even if it is not intentional.  And if their goes involved weight loss, then the resentment can be twice as strong.

If it is a friend who is resentful, you may find that they are suddenly excluding you from activities,.  Some friends or family can even say mean things, taunt you about your new body or even your new clothes.  And some people who are servers at restaurants or work in exercise studios–or even are members of the same gym you belong to, can treat you in a resentful mean way.


I went to Western Bagel today for and had a post-Pilates Perfect 10 Egg a la Bagel (Egg, cheese, meat and a 10g net carb bagel).  My special treat for breakfast.  I used to have these all of the time, but I now only allow myself something this large once a week and after a hard workout.  I need energy for the morning because I have clients coming in for the next four hours straight.  This woman, asked me tons of questions about how I was losing at the time I was losing weight.  But, then I lost it, and following that for the next 18 months, she always asks me, “So, you are still on that diet???”  I remember her saying she wanted to lose weight when I was slowly losing, but after seeing me keep it off for two years now, she is pissed off seeing me thin.  It was great when I was fat and trying to lose, but being thin and keeping it seems to be pissing her off.

I find myself wanting to tell her to shut up already.  I want to go in and just order my f’ing bagel.  I now find myself hating going there because she might be there and sure enough, she was there.  She asked me again today about, “So, you are STILL on your diet?”  I answered (for the fourth time now), “I am not on a diet, this is my lifestyle and how I eat and how I want to look.”  She then made a face at me like she was in horror!  And she said as she grabbed her two belly folds, “Well, I like how I look and I feel good, so I am ok.”  It was then apparent to me that it was an issue about her, not me.  She doesn’t give a crap about me.  She is a lady at the bagel shop.  She doesn’t even know my name.  There is no happiness or concern for me.  She is feeling resentful and frustrated with herself.  So, I said, “I had reflux, I lost the weight, and it is gone now.  I can’t have a belly or I get sick.  I am happy this way and I want to stay this way.”  So, that was my end of story comment and she nodded.

Will she bring it up again if I go back?  I think she might!  However, I have to remember this is about her. not me.   I will be prepared in the future and say, “I think we shouldn’t discuss my diet anymore.  It is what it is.  I am happy and healthy and that is all that matters”  Because I am sick of it and she should be too.  What can I do?  I will not put on weight for her to feel happier with her issues.  I am very happy with my body and my work.  My husband compliments me and I know that the people who really care about me and don’t have issues say I look good.  My clothes fit well and that was the goal!


I just have to remember  how I  would feel in a similar situation, or maybe how I felt when others lost weight and you couldn’t,  If I put myself in their place, then I can see that the resentment is all about them and not about me.  I am just a mirror of what they did not commmit themselves to do.

If you ever find yourself being one of the resentful ones, you have to ask yourself what is holding you back.  Anyone can lose weight.  You have to follow the rules.  Stop saying you can cheat once a week and eat a whole slice of cake.  Stop baking cakes in your house, because you will be tempted to eat more than a small piece.  If you have to cheat, there are alternative ways to bake items using almond flour, unsweetened cocoa, coconut oil, Truvia, Stevia, etc.  You can make these things.  Google recipes.  Don’t be lazy.

You can also buy a small piece of something bad to have once a week.  However, I have seen some people on diets recommend to people to have these cheats in the house and it is a terrible idea.  It sets you up for temptation.  And the people who recommend these things are usually still overweight.  I am at goal, I stay at goal.  I think I know what it takes.  And if you don’t follow these rules, then don’t get mad at me when I come up to you and order an Egg a la Bagel!  It is not my fault that you put a batch of brownies in your house and they are calling your name!

Emergency Hunger Rules and Ideas

I thought about the lady in yesterday’s blog, who was hungry and perhaps emotionally eating. I thought about what to do in a hunger emergency, so you don’t sabotage yourself in a glucose-low, and fill up on a high sugar item and keep feeding the vicious cycle of the blood sugar roller coaster–which leads to weight issues and poor health.

First of all, you should be eating a protein portion (4 to 6 ounces of meat, an egg or some cup of cheese. If you do this, you will cut down significantly on those lows. But, when you first lower sugar and carb intake, the lows are more felt and more often, until your body gets used to the new lifestyle. This could take around a week.

So, lastly, when you feel hungry, here is what you can do to fill in the gap until your next protein meal out of your minimum of six per day, spread out 3 to 4 hours in-between each meal.

Emergency Food

1. Have one of your four daily half-cup portions of vegetables. Or do two. Have one of your two small portions of salads and/or put your vegetables in it.

2. Have a liquid protein shake, about 6 ounces. This should cut your craving down significantly.

3. Have a small extra portion of a very low carb protein–meat, egg, cheese. You can do Greek yogurt, but keep in mind that if you do a flavored yogurt, pick wisely. One person I know loves Chobani and it is loaded in sugar and carbs. No wonder she likes it. Dannon Lite and Fit flavored Greek Yogurt has less than half of the sugar and carbs. If you eat the Chobani, you probably might as well eat the jelly beans (don’t).

4. Have just a few ounces of nuts or seeds.

5. Have one of your two small fruits that you can have in a day. Stick with lower sugar fruits if you can, like citrus or berries. You can even blend some into that protein shake/drink.

6. Have a low carb protein bar Ike Power Crunch, at 10g of carbs.

7. Make a low carb pizza, made with a cauliflower base. I have blogged about it before, but you can look at this particular recipe. http://www.eatingbirdfood.com/2012/09/healthy-pizza-with-a-cauliflower-crust/

8. The low carb version of a Taco Bell Supreme item. I buy low carb burrito shells at Costco or Trader Joes, but they are at other places. They say low carb on them. Compare and Contrast. But, I make this all of the time and it is delicious. http://www.hungry-girl.com/newsletters/raw/985

9. Have these delicious soy pretend-pasta noodles. I have had them and they are good. Miracle Noodles aren’t good. These are good. They are at Ralph’s and Amazon.com. A little pasta lower sugar pasta sauce and cheese us yummy and filling.



Writing this blog made me hungry. I am going to go make number 8, right now.

Emotional Eating Can Hurt Your Diet or Lifestyle Change


Emotional eating can sabotage your weight-loss efforts

Sometimes the strongest cravings for food happen when you’re at your weakest point emotionally and you may turn to food for comfort. Emotional eating can sabotage your weight-loss efforts. Emotional eating often leads to eating too much, and you most likely will eat too much of the wrong things.  I talked to a woman today who ate jelly beans when she knew she had to do a fasting blood test the next day. There are take steps to regain control of your eating habits and get back on track with your weight-loss goals.


The connection between mood, food and weight loss

Emotional eating is eating as a way to push down or soothe out negative emotions, such as stress, anger, fear, boredom, sadness and loneliness. Things happening to you in life and the hassles of daily life can trigger negative emotions that lead to emotional eating and disrupt your weight-loss efforts. These triggers may include:

  • Unemployment
  • Financial pressure
  • Health problems
  • Relationship conflicts
  • Work stress
  • Fatigue
  • Also, being on diet or change of lifestyle with food and feeling bad about yourself or frustrated at where you are at–physically.

Although some people actually eat less when stressed,  if you’re in emotional distress you may turn to impulsive or binge eating — you may rapidly eat whatever’s convenient, without even enjoying it. In fact, your emotions may become so tied to your eating habits that you automatically or impulsively reach for a treat or a sweat, whenever you’re angry or stressed without stopping to think about what you’re doing. Food also serves as a great distraction. If you’re worried about a test, or some life event, or brooding over a conflict, for instance, you may focus on eating comfort food instead of dealing with the painful situation. Whatever emotions drive you to overeat, the end result is often the same. The emotions return, and you may also now bear the additional burden of guilt about setting back your weight-loss  or health-related goal. This can also lead to an unhealthy cycle — your emotions trigger you to overeat, you beat yourself up for getting off your weight-loss track, you feel bad, and you overeat again. desserts

Tips to get your weight-loss efforts back on track

You can take steps to control cravings and renew your effort at weight loss. To help stop emotional eating, try these tips:

  • Learn from setbacks. If you have an episode of emotional eating, forgive yourself and start fresh the next day. Try to learn from the experience.  So, make a plan for how you can prevent it in the future, focus on the positive changes you’re making in your eating habits, and give yourself credit for making changes that’ll lead to better health.
  • Stress management: If stress contributes to your emotional eating, try a stress management technique, such as yoga, meditation or relaxation.
  • Have a hunger reality check. Is your hunger physical or emotional? If you ate just a few hours ago, you’re probably not really hungry. Give the craving a little time to pass.
  • Keep a food diary. Write down what you eat, how much you eat, when you eat, how you’re feeling when you eat and how hungry you are. Over time, you may see patterns emerge that reveal the connection between your mood and food.
  • Get support. You’re more likely to give in to emotional eating if you lack a good support network. Lean on family and friends or consider joining a support group.  Overeaters Anonymous is a good group and it is free.
  • Fight boredom. Instead of snacking when you’re not truly hungry, distract yourself. Take a walk, watch a movie, play with your dog or cat, listen to music, read, surf the Internet or call a friend.
  • Take away temptation. Don’t keep supplies of comfort foods in your home if they’re hard for you to resist. And if you feel angry or blue, postpone your trip to the grocery store until you’re sure that you have your emotions in check.
  • Don’t deprive yourself. When you’re trying to achieve a weight-loss goal, you may limit your calories too much, eat the same foods frequently and banish the treats you enjoy.
  • Snack healthy. If you feel the urge to eat between meals, choose a low-fat, low-calorie snack, such as fresh fruit, low-sugar Greek yogurt, vegetables with low-fat dip or unbuttered popcorn. Or try low-fat, lower calorie versions of your favorite foods to see if they satisfy your craving.

Realize there are two different cycles:  Healthy and Unhealthy Eating.  First picture here is unhealthy.  Second is healthy.

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Sweet Temptation

A great proverb:  ““Good habits result from resisting temptation

I can’t tell you how annoying it is when you are on a diet and someone (who KNOWS you are on a diet) offers you something NOT on your diet.

It happens all of the time.  Temptation.  Sabotage.  Whatever you want to call it.  It is annoying and it is real.

What can you do to prevent temptation?  10 Ways To Reduce Temptation:

1.  Never go anywhere hungry.  My father was thin and he used to go to dinner after eating a piece of chicken breast at home.  I always wondered why he did such a weird thing.  Eat before going out?  I get it now.  He was a reformed chubby kid and as an adult, he learned how to stay thin.  I didn’t figure it out until after he passed away and I lost my weight.    So, eat some protein before you go out to a dinner with other people.  You will find it easier to pass up the rolls and ordering food based on hunger vs. nutritional need.  Once you get good at doing it, it will become a normal routine or habit.

2.  If you do go out, tell the server to not bring rolls and you will NOT be ordering dessert.

3.  Don’t go shopping hungry and go with a list of items that you need, items that are nutritious and part of your diet.

4.  Don’t keep bread in the house, if at all possible.

5.  Always have protein in the house.  Meat, cheese,eggs, Greek Yogurt, nuts, seeds, protein bars.  If you are hungry, have a protein drink or some cheese/meat slices to kill off the hunger.

6.  Eat protein every 3-4 hours and don’t go longer or you will be more likely to cheat.  You are weaker in your strength of saying “NO” when you are hungry.

7.  Warn people who have invited you over or out that you are on a special diet and just let them know that you need cheese, meat, nuts, eggs and you cannot eat grains like rice or bread and no beans.  If they ask why, tell them it is for something medical or you need to be low sugar and those things convert to sugar.  It is really no one’s business anyway.

8.  Drink plenty of water or some form of sugar free beverage and keep full and hydrated on it.

9.  If someone keeps asking you to try something that is NOT on your diet, don’t be afraid to say something to them.  Don’t cave in.  What they are doing is WRONG.  You can say, “You know, I know you are trying to be nice, but that what they are asking you to eat is not good for your health.  You don’t have to mention weight, just say “health” and they are more likely to back down.  I, personally, have no trouble saying, “Hey, stop trying to sabotage my diet or my health.”

10.  Remember that just because it is a holiday, or someone’s birthday, or the weekend or whatever the excuse–doesn’t meant that you have to eat something that will set you back for days after weeks or months of working so hard.  I never really understood why we have to eat things like cake or ice cream when it is your birthday anyway.  Who came up with that idea?

BONUS ANSWER:  Get sugar free/low carb/gluten-free replacements of items that are sweet.  There are bakeries now that make these things and you can Google and have all kinds of replacements mailed to you.  So look into it and don’t just eat whatever crap comes your way.  You don’t have to do it.  Be strong for YOURSELF!