Over three years ago, I began my weight-loss journey. I call it a journey because it is a long road traveled and it is never really over, even when you reach your weight destination. Because if you ever get there, then you have to learn what to do to keep it off and that is a journey in itself. Starting today and keep going day by day and inch along, even if it is at a snail pace. You will eventually get there….
So, let’s say you begin with a diet or following the Skinny-Rules to lose weight (https://skinny-rules.com/2014/03/18/my-weight-loss-rules-that-made-me-skinny-and-kept-me-skinny-and-i-eat/). You follow the rules and change your eating style. You add in some exercise to make it happen even faster and to get fit and healthy (because skinny flabby is not attractive or healthy either). Then, you are looking different and people start to notice.
Good people who notice changes in you say nice things and compliment you on your efforts and results. Not-good-people will find ways to discourage what you are doing and what you have done. You will hear comments that range…..Here are a few……and most of these are said by overweight people who have tried diets and give up too easily and have no willpower over their carb addiction.
- “You have gone too far.”
- “You don’t look good.”
- “Oh, you will gain it back. Everyone does! ” (not if you stick to the rules and don’t go back to your old bad habits)
- “You are anorexic.”
- “It is unhealthy” (like fat or diabetes is healthy!)
- “You are too old to be so skinny!”
- “You have an unhealthy relationship to food.”
- “You can’t keep eating like that!”
- “You can’t stay on a diet forever!” (it isn’t a diet, it is a lifestyle change because the way you eat before was wrong learning or you wouldn’t have gotten larger!)
So, I have heard all of these, but my BMI is 22. (normal is between 18.5 and 24.5 and I am 22. I would prefer 21, but my body seems to like 22. I exercise regularly (Pilates 4 days a week, yoga one day a week and elliptical about 5 hours a week). My Lindora consultant told me that because I work out so much, my muscle is more dense. She took my measurements the other day and they were the same as when my BMI was 19. I have been BMI of 22 for a year now and still look good, so I guess this is where I need to be.
I eat between 50 and 100g of carbs per day and I follow the rules. My deserts consist of things that are low-carb like my One Minute cake recipe from Jorge Cruz. (I will put it up on my next blog again, but I have it on Skinny-Rules from earlier on. https://skinny-rules.com/2013/09/04/time-to-eat-some-chocolate-cake-and-not-gain-weight/ I enjoy my eating style and I look hot doing it (so I am told! :))
So, anyone can say anything or try to guilt me into eating or drinking their calorific food or drink item to make them feel better about doing it, but I worked too hard and care too much about myself to let someone SABOTAGE me.
You have to love yourself and learn to say, “NO!” That is a hard word to say if you are not used to it and many women are trained to be obliging to people. If you care about yourself at all and have any self-esteem, you have to learn to say no to saboteurs and to bad food.
A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips!
And you know what? If friends are not supportive because you are doing what they can’t do and they are jealous–then they are not your real friends and you need some new ones!